|Christian Dating A Biblical Perspective by Admin(m): Thu Dec 2017 08:18pm|
What is the difference between Dating and Courtship?
Dating is a stage of romantic relationship whereby two people meet socially. It consists of social activities either involving the couples alone or with others. Courtship/Courting involves a man's courting of a woman, seeking her affection (usually with the hope of marriage)
Dating is usually a game of chance; it might not work out as planned. The reason why it is not Biblical is that it involves some 'social activities' which could lead to rape. Cases of date rape are usually common in dating because God might not be involved at the beginning. And if God isn't invited to be in on a matter, He stands back, keeps His cool and watches what would become of those involved. You would realize that there are online dating sites, but there are no online courting sites because courting is of God.
In Genesis 24, Abraham who enjoyed the best of marriage after his wife's death in Genesis 23, realised he didn't want his son having any relations with the heathen i.e, the Canaanites because he knew a wrong marital decision could mar one's destiny/God's promises (Gen.16: 1-4, 21:9-12). This almost happened to Abraham in his affair with Hagar, his wife's maid, so he entrusted this great task of marital choice in the hands of his most trusted servant. Abraham took a wife for his son out of his country and from among his kindred i.e his own people. People of like minds, people with the same pattern of lifestyle.
In courting, a man seeks a woman's affection until she gives it. That takes patience. Spiritual heads and both parents are not in the dark. In dating, deception is a possibility because parents and spiritual heads might not be involved until the last stage when the "bride" must have been impregnated and already playing the part of a wife while not married. A marriage contracted out of God's will is a pathway to a lifelong chaos.
STEPS TO CHOOSING THE RIGHT PARTNER IN MARRIAGE.
1. Involve God from start to finish. Abraham's servant sought God's face and before he even finished his prayers, he saw the result (Gen. 24:15-21, Isa. 65:24). Your own answer might not be immediate, but SEEK GOD FIRST!
2. Ask for a confirmation(Isa.45:11). This might be a verse of the scripture(Gen. 24:12-14), a word of encouragement from another person, a revelation; something you can hold onto as a reference.
3. Involve your spiritual heads in prayers and encouragement, carry them along, learn from their experiences and be obedient to whatsoever God tells you through them.
4. Your Parents are of vital importance in this decision-making process. If they tell you not to go ahead, it might just be God speaking through them. But then, pray.
P.S, while it is good to take advice from our spiritual heads, it is good to hear Directly from God First to avoid confusion.
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